I was at the gym after work yesterday and was watching Oprah as I sweated away on the eliptical machine. On the show were two ladies that wrote this book called I'd Trade my Husband for a Housekeeper. It was quite amusing listening to these women tell about their lives after having children. I also found it amazing that many women felt the same way that they did after having one or two children. How did my mom work and take care of five with my dad out on cruise most of his Navy career????
They were all overwhelmed and in need of daily assistance. They had ladies admitting to not bathing their children for weeks as well as themselves. Wow!!! That is so weird to me.
They were not single moms and most were stay at home moms. Needless to say they had stories that would blow your socks off. I believe I even laughed out loud at the gym...they were so funny. If you have a chance to see that episode of Oprah ladies you must watch it.
I do have to admit that I was overwhelmed with the whole nursing thing after having Paisley, but never with Paisley herself. I know that I am lucking to have such an involved and hands on husband. I would not trade my husband for a housekeeper. I would love to have a housekeeper in addition to my husband, but never trade him.
The bottom line was that you need to let it out and admit that you can't do everything. You need to surround yourself with friends that can lift you up and enjoy your sorrow and failures. We are all not perfect moms, but we can do our best and that is what counts. I read somewhere this quote, " at the end of the day if your children are still alive, then you have done your job well". Words to live by.